Although we may deny it, its a fact, women want the Mr Rochester-types of the population. Let’s face it, we like the slightly obnoxious, tactless, awkward types who don’t have a clue because we know that deep down they are sweeties. I mean, what is it that makes us attracted to them? In my opinion its that they have that dominating thing. It happens a lot in a relationship, even in flirting. Women pretend to want to be the head of the relationship but really, every woman wants a man who is strong and will look after her. So what we really want is an impossible mix: A man who is submissive and lets us make decisions and take over when we want to, yet looks after us and will be strong and dominant when we want them to be. Its something that you don’t find often. And as well as this, they have to know exactly when we want them to be either of these two beings at exactly the right time without us having to tell them.
That’s a lot to ask for in a person really. Its silly, women can’t do all that, let alone men. Even the psychology of holding hands, intertwining fingers with your boyfriend/husband, you are locking yourself to him. When he puts his arm around you its a protective thing, when he stands with you he is still holding on to you in some way. This is partly territorial, warning other men that you are there’s, and partly protective, they are just looking after you, keeping you from being harmed by keeping you close to them.
Now, although i’ve taken martial arts for years and was in the junior military so i know how to break bones in a few seconds and use a rifle, i still like to feel looked after and protected. Even if i could protect myself, its nice to have a dominant male with you on a dark and empty street. Although Jane Eyre is about a feisty orphan girl who makes her way in life despite maltreatment and having no money, when Mr Rochester comes along, even she falls for his tactless and grim personality. But even so, even if the males of the population are usually the head of the house, women are the neck. And the neck can turn the head any way she wants.
[...] Every woman wants a Mr Rochester [...]